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Killer Instinct

Posted in Get The Girl!, tagged , , , , on November 27, 2012| 2 Comments »

Sword unsheathing

当たって砕けろ
“Go collide and smash into pieces.”
-Japanese proverb

Recently, many of my friends have either gotten married, gotten engaged, or have indicated that their relationships are heading in that direction. While that’s all well and good (I would love to get married myself), many of them have already begun to turn soft. Why does this happen? Since when does being in a serious committed relationship give one permission to get fat, get lazy, and stop kicking ass? Since when is security and stability a reason to lose one’s killer instinct?

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Overcome Fear of Rejection

Posted in Get The Girl!, tagged , , , , on November 26, 2012| 7 Comments »

A broken mirror

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
-Wayne Gretzky

I still remember it well…

Friday night. I’m in the middle of another move having just spent the last 5 hours assembling furniture, when Jake suggests a night on the town.

*****

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Unplug, but Stay Connected

Posted in Step Up, tagged , , , on October 30, 2012| 1 Comment »

Ethernet cable

We humans are social creatures. Even if you think you are introverted (as I am), that does not override your instinct to seek the company of your fellow man. Even so-called “nerds” join book clubs, anime clubs, and gaming clubs simply because it’s more fun to talk about and share your experience with someone than to read, watch, and play alone. Even the most die-hard introverts feel lonely from time to time. We all seek a sense of belonging, camaraderie, and love whether consciously or not. We are not meant to live out our lives as hermits behind desks, ensconced within cubicles.

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Even If You Don’t Feel Like It

Posted in Master Your Mind, tagged , , , , , on October 25, 2012| 1 Comment »

Japanese sword

There are 2 kinds of people: those who rule over their emotions, and those who are ruled by them. Being part of the latter group does not guarantee failure, but being part of the former does guarantee success.

Here’s the scenario. A high school boy has a crush on a high school girl. He takes a chance and asks her out. Because he’s not her type, or she still thinks boys have the cooties, or any infinite number of equally arbitrary reasons, she turns him down. Eventually, when his heart’s memory of rejection fades behind his heart’s vision of hope, he takes a chance with someone new. But his confidence is still shaken from his first experience. He acts hesitant. Timid. Fearful. And it ruins his ability to connect to the second girl. A second rejection causes him to throw down his sword and pick up a shield. Though he will inevitably try his luck throughout his life, he is not the same man. He stops taking risks, always playing it safe, and never really chasing after victory with an open heart. He has lost the warrior spirit inside himself because he has allowed his emotions to conquer him.

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The Waiting Game

Posted in Master Your Mind, tagged , , , , , , on October 14, 2012| 3 Comments »

A man waiting

Waiting can be a tortuous experience. A phone call after a job interview. A text message from a new lover. The results of your most recent checkup. Whatever the trial may be, time appears to crawl at a tortoise’s pace. You cannot force the tortoise to quicken its steps, and pining for it harder will only add weight to its shell and tar upon the road before it.

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