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wedding bands

This weekend I attended my friend’s wedding. It was a beautiful affair with roses, candles, and of course, a deejay. Surprisingly, I found myself paying close attention to details that I thought might enhance my own wedding someday. I say ‘surprising,’ because for most of my adult life, I was cynical of even the idea of marriage. Having been cheated on, having seen so-called perfect couples fall apart before my eyes, having read the sobering statistics on our country’s famously high divorce rate, I wasn’t exactly inspired to tie the knot back then.

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Killer Instinct

Sword unsheathing

当たって砕けろ
“Go collide and smash into pieces.”
-Japanese proverb

Recently, many of my friends have either gotten married, gotten engaged, or have indicated that their relationships are heading in that direction. While that’s all well and good (I would love to get married myself), many of them have already begun to turn soft. Why does this happen? Since when does being in a serious committed relationship give one permission to get fat, get lazy, and stop kicking ass? Since when is security and stability a reason to lose one’s killer instinct?

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An old couple embracing

“Tận nhân lực mới tri thiên mệnh.”
“Only when you have put in your best effort, will you know your true fate.”
-Vietnamese proverb

You see it in the movies all the time. You very seldomly see it in real life. But when you do, it is a charming vision to behold. What I’m talking about is the sight of an old woman and an old man, maybe in their mid-80’s, walking hand-in-hand in the park. It is a rare occurrence, and becoming even rarer.

Wouldn’t that be nice, to find someone with whom you can grow old together? With the divorce rate skyrocketing all over the world, the prospect of loving someone “til death do you part” seems all the more elusive.

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