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The #1 Mistake Men Make When Wooing Women

Or: The Frequent Flub Females Bring About While Fishing for Boyfriends

It is an all too common mistake.  Many of my friends have admitted to making it.  And I’ve been guilty of it on many an occassion.  Unfortunately, once made, it becomes a recipe for heartbreak.  So what is this heinous mistake?

Trying to change who you are for a particular woman.

No one is perfect, but we each have our own attributes, some of which we take pride in.  Sometimes you meet a woman who is just not interested in what you have to offer.  And rather than move on, we men sometimes take her on as the ultimate challenge, the chase to end all chases.  We try to fix our flaws while neglecting our features.

Suppose you were a personal trainer.  You spend many hours at the gym working out to look the part for your clientele.  Well, wouldn’t you want your lady to be more impressed by your big biceps rather than say, artistic ability?  There should be no judgment.  It is what you chose to invest time in and have become rightly proud of.  Or suppose you were a comedian.  Wouldn’t you like for your girl to enjoy your sense of humor?  What’s the point in trying to get a girl who doesn’t “get” you?  Or if you spent half of your adult life pouring your heart, sweat, and soul into becoming a doctor, would you really want a significant other who prefers firemen?

Rather than try to fit into her ideal, better to find a woman who already appreciates the man you are and the man you intend to become.  A bird does not care how long a frog’s tongue is any more than a giraffe cares how fast a fish can swim.  When you find someone who not only appreciates you, but also whom you can appreciate in return, that’s when you know you’ve met your match.