Archive for October, 2011

A Stormy Sea

Dear Fellow Nerds,

I have a confession to make. In high school, I was not a very good student. On top of that, I was never a part of chess club…


Before you vote me out of the laboratory, allow me to explain.

I don’t want to go into too much detail, but I will tell you that high school was one of the rockiest, most turbulent times of my life. While my family life lingered in dire straits, my school life had all but drowned. At some point, I was even the top story on several morning news channels, but not because of anything I had done, but rather what I had gone through.


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A Hallway with Multiple Paths

#1 Believe you will win.
What are the chances all the decisions you’ve made up until now have all been good decisions? And yet, most people when reflecting on their lives, are pretty satisfied with the results. Part of the reason is that very few decisions in life are irreversible. Even if something takes us off course, we can usually find our way back again.

A good decision is the echo of good judgment. Good judgment is the echo of experience. And experience is the echo of bad decisions. So no matter what you do, making a decision and mindfully acting on it will eventually translate into a positive outcome. Each path has its own reward. Even as one door closes, another will open. Either way, you win.


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Be A Nerd Without Looking Like One

A Stereotypical Nerd with Glasses

I’m a nerd. I love nerds. But the last thing anyone wants is to actually look like a nerd. Your looks (your face and body type) is not so important as your look (your grooming and style). How you look has a direct impact on not only your own emotions, but also the emotional responses of others. How people respond to a disheveled guy in a wrinkled t-shirt, wearing big, round, grandpa spectacles is very different than to a well-groomed man in a sharp blazer, sporting sleek, modern-rimmed glasses. Trust me, you don’t lose nearly as much peripheral vision as you think you do.

Here are a few fashion faux pas you want to avoid if you want to go from invisible to notice-worthy:

1) Oversized clothes


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A Puppy Eating Chow

“Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.”

In middle school, I was voted most likely to be a male nun. One of my best friends was voted most likely to be a pooper scooper, and another friend, most likely to be a deodorant tester. Out of all the positive superlatives available (e.g. most likely to be a millionaire), we were saddled with the most unflattering ones. The ironic thing was the votes were coming from fellow GATE (Gifted And Talented Education) classmates. In other words, even among nerds, my friends and I were considered to be bigger nerds.

Throughout high school and even into my first year of college, I remained a nerd at large. At best, some of my peers would agree that I had become kingpin of the nerds. During my second year of college, still with no girlfriend, I began to worry if my middle school prophecy would really be fulfilled.


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A Sunset on the Beach

Happy Birthday To Me!

Yesterday was my birthday and I am now officially old!

My weekend celebration was the best one of my life, although my friends make fun of me because I seem to say that about every year. It really was an unforgettable weekend stuffed with savory foods, strong drinks, generous friends, and a healthy dollop of novelty. But last night before hitting the sack, I had a hell of a time trying to sleep. I may not be an old man yet, but I definitely am getting older. And I couldn’t shake the realization that no matter what I do, time marches on.


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