Choose to Take the Journey

We humans are social creatures. Even if you think you are introverted (as I am), that does not override your instinct to seek the company of your fellow man. Even so-called “nerds” join book clubs, anime clubs, and gaming clubs simply because it’s more fun to talk about and share your experience with someone than to read, watch, and play alone. Even the most die-hard introverts feel lonely from time to time. We all seek a sense of belonging, camaraderie, and love whether consciously or not. We are not meant to live out our lives as hermits behind desks, ensconced within cubicles.

However, some people reason that their habitual social isolation is somehow a natural outgrowth of their introversion. Meanwhile, these same people are often the most active bloggers, forum posters, and facebook enthusiasts on the web. I don’t doubt that they are introverts, but clearly they still wish to connect to the rest of humanity. There’s a big difference between having an introverted bent and having social anxiety that actually impedes your ability to build desirable relationships. That’s called shyness, and it should be overcome for the sake of one’s emotional well-being.

There are many good reasons to stay connected to other people. In a highly competitive job market, knowing someone on the inside will often move you to the front of the line. Even if you’re satisfied with your job, if you suddenly find yourself laid off, you won’t lose hope so easily if you already have a few new employers in mind. In the dating market, of course the more you put yourself out there, the more likely you are to meet one of your soul mates. An 80% chance is certainly higher than a 20% chance. A 1% chance is still higher than a 0% chance. Putting work and women aside, staying connected on a face-to-face basis will just make you a happier person. Never undervalue the magic of sharing a laugh, giving a hug, or receiving a smile. Your introverted mind may enjoy the comfort of your own home, but your tribal gut would prefer that you unplug from the matrix and connect to the wonderful world offline.