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No One Knows The Future

Posted in Get The Girl!, tagged , , , on March 5, 2012| Leave a Comment »

An old couple embracing

“Tận nhân lực mới tri thiên mệnh.”
“Only when you have put in your best effort, will you know your true fate.”
-Vietnamese proverb

You see it in the movies all the time. You very seldomly see it in real life. But when you do, it is a charming vision to behold. What I’m talking about is the sight of an old woman and an old man, maybe in their mid-80’s, walking hand-in-hand in the park. It is a rare occurrence, and becoming even rarer.

Wouldn’t that be nice, to find someone with whom you can grow old together? With the divorce rate skyrocketing all over the world, the prospect of loving someone “til death do you part” seems all the more elusive.

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Master Your Emotions

Posted in Get The Girl!, tagged , , , , on January 6, 2012| 5 Comments »

Waves breaking against a rocky shore

I once dated a girl whose emotions were as wild as the ocean.  They were turbulent, fickle, uncontrollable, unpredictable.  And I loved her for it… just not initially.

She was the kind of girl who showed up at your doorstep unannounced one night.  And the following day, she would unexpectedly cut you out of her life.  She broke up with me countless times for reasons I may never quite understand.  I loved her though, so I didn’t let her go so easily.  As long as my life ran smoothly, which it usually did, I found myself growing fond of her mercurial temperament.

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Tame The Beast – Overcome Jealousy

Posted in Get The Girl!, tagged , , , on November 20, 2011| 2 Comments »

Green cat eyes

Jealousy is a beast that must be kept on a leash unless you want to end up on the wrong end of it. There are really 2 aspects to jealousy: (1) antagonism towards someone who has something you want, and (2) a compulsion to guard something you have to prevent its loss. In the first case, the focus is on what you don’t have; in the second, on what you won’t have. For the sake of discussion, we can think of them as Envy versus Fear of Loss.

In a way, Envy is like the good twin that can be allowed a longer leash. The reason being, through deliberate planning and action, envy can transform into unstoppable motivation. An enviable life can be modeled to better your own. You simply need to define the intermediate steps that would bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. For example, if you want to make a billion dollars but it seems beyond your grasp, then first focus on how to make a million dollars. And if a million dollars still seems surreal, then first focus on how to make 100,000 dollars. Keep breaking up your goal into smaller bits until you can emotionally digest it as a possibility.

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Live Your Life, Get More Dates

Posted in Get The Girl!, tagged , , , , on November 16, 2011| 4 Comments »

A drum and drumsticks

Here’s an all too common occurence. Guy meets Girl. She seems cooler than the last girl he dated or someone who he finds to be especially attractive. He gets her number and starts texting her. So far, so good.

But then no matter what he’s doing at the time–eating, sleeping, driving–as soon as his phone goes off, he immediately stops whatever he’s doing to check to see if it’s her. He’s so excited that he’ll compulsively check his messages even when his phone doesn’t go off. If she calls him while he’s on the phone, he’ll hang up on his friend, his brother, or even his poor old mother.

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How Dog Food Will Get You A Girlfriend

Posted in Get The Girl!, tagged , , , on October 13, 2011| 1 Comment »

A Puppy Eating Chow

“Give me a lever long enough and a fulcrum on which to place it, and I shall move the world.”
-Archimedes

In middle school, I was voted most likely to be a male nun. One of my best friends was voted most likely to be a pooper scooper, and another friend, most likely to be a deodorant tester. Out of all the positive superlatives available (e.g. most likely to be a millionaire), we were saddled with the most unflattering ones. The ironic thing was the votes were coming from fellow GATE (Gifted And Talented Education) classmates. In other words, even among nerds, my friends and I were considered to be bigger nerds.

Throughout high school and even into my first year of college, I remained a nerd at large. At best, some of my peers would agree that I had become kingpin of the nerds. During my second year of college, still with no girlfriend, I began to worry if my middle school prophecy would really be fulfilled.

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