Here’s an all too common occurence. Guy meets Girl. She seems cooler than the last girl he dated or someone who he finds to be especially attractive. He gets her number and starts texting her. So far, so good.
But then no matter what he’s doing at the time–eating, sleeping, driving–as soon as his phone goes off, he immediately stops whatever he’s doing to check to see if it’s her. He’s so excited that he’ll compulsively check his messages even when his phone doesn’t go off. If she calls him while he’s on the phone, he’ll hang up on his friend, his brother, or even his poor old mother.
Have you ever been guilty of this? Does it seem like the right and healthy thing to do? You have to live your life, and you can’t do that by marching to her beat instead of your own. Finish your e-mail and then check your phone. Don’t risk your life by texting behind the wheel. And if Dream Girl calls while you are on the phone with dear ol’ mum, make her wait. She’ll understand. If she doesn’t, trust me, she wasn’t worth it in the first place.
As for prior engagements, never ditch your bros to see a girl you hardly know. Making room for her in your life is one thing. Making yourself available to her 24/7 is quite another. When I decided to live my own life, I actually found that more women took an interest in me. I did not fake being busy. I simply refused to cancel any plans I had with friends or family, even if it coincided with the only day Dream Girl was available. Did I lose an opportunity here and there? Sure. But more importantly, staying the course will make you feel more confident and at ease with yourself. And if it’s one thing all women love the world over, it’s confidence.
//This post was inspired by the book “Why Men Love Bitches”. If you have any other recommendations, share them below.
Choose to Take the Journey 
What’s that saying? “If you find something you love doing, you’ll never work a day in your life.” I find the same thing true with women and dating. If you put your self in a position where you’re always around beautiful women then you’ll never have an issue getting to know them.
This is something a lot of people don’t really think about but, for all young graduates out there, I feel it’s really important to pick something you love mean while also figuring out if you’re going to be in a position where chicks will always be readily available.
Working on a oil tanker in the Atlantic ocean? Putting out Fires in an area that has a population of 500 people in the wilderness? You’re in luck that the internet exists so you can do online dating. But good luck getting to meet these girls. You’ll be spending more time and energy just setting it up…which will in turn raise the desperation. Not a good position to be in.
I found myself relating to your post in that I’d always make hotties a number one priority, even over my general health. It was an imbalance, some that most people think is rightfully justified. That’s cool, we all have our different time frames of where we’re at in life with women. I just found that a balacne was important. Which is what you’re saying ;)
That’s a good point Jonathan. If you set up your life in a favorable way at least when it comes to women, you’re less likely to abandon everything when you finally meet a girl. Life is all about finding the right balance.
After I read your article, I feel embarrassed of myself. I used to like crazy and Checking my phone every second. I didn’t want to miss one word from him. However, I realized that it wasn’t a right way to love a person. It just made me losing myself. If I didn’t change the way I did, I would also lose him because nobaby will like a person without his/her own spirit, just as like a follower.
I think many people have some crazy acts like you mention on your article at the begining of their relationship. Some may get adjusted after realized that is dangerous. but some may not,they would just end up heart broken.
Well said pinky. There’s nothing to be embarassed about though. You’re definitely not alone. Losing yourself completely is a recipe for unrequited love. There’s no greater feeling than being in love, but always remember to love yourself first.