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Instantly Vaporize Your Stress

Posted in Master Your Mind, tagged , , on December 3, 2011| 2 Comments »

Manhattan skyline

To some extent, the state of your house reflects the state of your mind. When your mind is in turmoil, you will be more likely to leave dishes unwashed, your bedroom strewn with dirty clothes, and unfinished paperwork scattered about. The hidden benefit of this relationship is that it also works in reverse. Clearing up environmental clutter helps to clear up mental clutter.

The reason is, whether you intend it or not, your mind creates and maintains a checklist of all the things that need to be done. This puts strain on your reticular formation (the part of your brain that makes you aware of things that are relevant), which diverts precious energy that you could utilize for more important matters. As you simplify and bring order to your surroundings, your brain will spontaneously erase those items from your mental checklist.

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Secrets of Charisma, part 2

Posted in Step Up, tagged , , on November 26, 2011| 1 Comment »

A grey magnet

This post is a continuation of Secrets of Charisma, part 1 and it is meant to be read in order.

7) Stop correcting.

If he makes a grammatical mistake while he’s arguing with you, don’t correct it just so you can be right about something.

If she doesn’t get the details quite right as she’s recounting your last adventure to a friend, don’t jump down her throat because of a minor detail. If it’s important, you can fill in the gaps or tell your side of the story when she’s finished.

If someone makes a mistake that can’t be corrected, stop bringing it up!　 Focus on what you can change, not on what you can’t. Make people feel good about their decisions.

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How To Take Action Sooner

Posted in Master Your Mind, tagged , , , on November 23, 2011| 4 Comments »

A thermostat

I went to my local laundromat one day and was pleasantly surprised to see an updated layout. My eyes pored over the shiny tiles that concealed the once drab wall on one side, and the brand-new dryers that now occupied the other. The washing machines had been moved about to allow air flow through a side door that I previously didn’t even know existed. I had heard that a fire broke out about a month ago so I assumed the flames had consumed most of the building. But that was not the case at all.

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Secrets of Charisma, part 1

Posted in Step Up, tagged , , on November 12, 2011| 2 Comments »

A Red Magnet

Charisma is all about making people feel good. The more confidence and purpose you can instill in people, the more magnetic you become. It may not be obvious, but respect is a necessary precondition. Think about the most charismatic person you know. Does he not only make you feel good about yourself, but commands your respect as well?

Sucking up, false flattery, or bending over backwards for someone who hardly cares about you is the opposite of charismatic. Don’t be fooled. Though these actions appear to elevate people, your own debasement makes mutual respect impossible. You cannot pull someone up from below; you will merely be stroking their ego.

Charisma comes naturally to some while others have to actively work on it. Those who attract people intuitively understand these secrets, while those who repel do so because they consistently fail to grasp them.

1) Be cool.
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Find the Courage to Fight

Posted in Master Your Mind, tagged , , , on November 4, 2011| 6 Comments »

A Muay Thai Fighter

Get back in the ring

Here’s the scenario. You’ve been burned in the past. You’ve tried and failed, on multiple occasions. Maybe you set the bar too high one too many times and fell short of your goals. You feel disappointed. Discouraged. Like, what was the point? But that’s no excuse to throw in the towel. You’re just not good enough… yet.

But you can be, if you just get back into that ring! Stop analyzing your past failures to death in the hopes of avoiding future mistakes. If the world gave you a good whipping, don’t make it worse by giving yourself three more beat-downs in your own mind. In the end, it’s better to keep fighting for your dreams and lose than to sit at home and cheer for the winning team. If you don’t fight, you will have already forfeited. If you do fight but lose, at least you’ll have had one hell of a ride. (more…)

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