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a determined dog

“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.”
-Mark Twain

Human beings neither have the strength of the gorilla, the speed of the cheetah, nor the plumage of the peacock. Our distinguishing feature as a species is of course our intelligence. It’s no wonder then that no other topic is as emotionally charged and as hotly debated as IQ. Though not the same as intelligence, IQ still remains our best approximation. The problem with studies on IQ is that they mostly describe populations, not individuals. To say that a high IQ population vis-à-vis a low IQ population will tend to be wealthier is like saying a group of big dogs will tend to overpower a group of small dogs. That doesn’t really say anything about the capabilities or motivation of any single dog.

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a row of chess pieces ordered in descending rank

This post is meant as a wake-up call for lifelong complainers and excuse-makers.

When you look at someone who has what you want, do you ever try to rationalize away his success?

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jumping silhouette

As long as you are alive, your potential is essentially unlimited.

Do attributes like looks, height, IQ, talent, or family background matter? For the sake of argument, let’s just say that they do. So what?! Does that mean that if the deck is stacked against you, you are going to just give up, roll over, and die?

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a dark forest

Frustration. Confusion. Fear. What do I do? What’s the right answer? What’s the right course of action? Why can’t I figure this out? What’s the lesson? What am I missing?

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various emotional expressions

Of course some degree of self-awareness is natural, but if you are stuck inside your head more often than you would like, unable to express yourself authentically and unabashedly to others, then here are a few ideas you may find useful.

1) Let yourself ease into it. Whether early in the morning at work or early in the night at the club, take it easy. Even if everyone around you is already chatty, laughing, having fun, and you feel like you don’t belong, still give yourself time to shift gears into social mode. You don’t have to go racing out onto the track from the get-go. Realize that most people need time to warm up the engine, as it were, before they can go for a spin.

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