Choose to Take the Journey

This post is meant as a wake-up call for lifelong complainers and excuse-makers.

When you look at someone who has what you want, do you ever try to rationalize away his success?

He is tall and I am short. He is good-looking by societal standards and I am average. He is white and I am Asian. Perhaps he is endowed with a higher IQ. Perhaps he is endowed with a better family background. Perhaps, he is just well-endowed.

Bullshit. GARBAGE. Spiritual poison. Before you even begin to consider such self-defeating thoughts, ask yourself the following:

Are you as decisive as him? Can you lead like he can? Are you as comfortable being the center of attention?

If not, then stop whining (as I used to), and do something about it. Figure out your direction in life, your values, the things that make you tick. Take speech classes. Take on leadership positions at school or work. Make yourself stand out from the crowd and get used to having eyes on you at all times.

Are you as funny as him? As fun? As interesting? As present in the moment?

If not, then watch comedies. Learn about humor. Take improv classes. Crack jokes. Put yourself out there more. Take on new hobbies. Travel. Meditate.

Do you engage in the same habits as he does? Even if you are already hitting the gym 3 days a week, is he hitting it for 6? Do you work as hard as him? Do you have his discipline? Do you go out as often as he does?

Cultivate the habits of the successful, the cool, the elite. Until you get your deficiencies up to speed with people who operate on a higher level than you, don’t you dare attribute your position to happenstance, or worse yet, a roll of the genetic dice.