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Finding Home Again

Posted in Master Your Mind, tagged , , , on April 18, 2012| 6 Comments »

An anchor and lifesaver

The squall that has been my life over the last few months is finally starting to quiet down. What has heartened me considerably is to hang my mind on constants–things like my Japanese paper lantern, the only piece of furniture I brought with me from New York.

I remember watching a video in college about a psychology experiment done with orphaned monkey infants. In the lab, some of them were given a metal statue that was intended to act as a sort of surrogate mother. Others were given the same metal statue, but covered in artificial fur to imitate their real mothers. And the last group was given nothing at all.

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Master Your Emotions

Posted in Get The Girl!, tagged , , , , on January 6, 2012| 5 Comments »

Waves breaking against a rocky shore

I once dated a girl whose emotions were as wild as the ocean.  They were turbulent, fickle, uncontrollable, unpredictable.  And I loved her for it… just not initially.

She was the kind of girl who showed up at your doorstep unannounced one night.  And the following day, she would unexpectedly cut you out of her life.  She broke up with me countless times for reasons I may never quite understand.  I loved her though, so I didn’t let her go so easily.  As long as my life ran smoothly, which it usually did, I found myself growing fond of her mercurial temperament.

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Instantly Vaporize Your Stress

Posted in Master Your Mind, tagged , , on December 3, 2011| 2 Comments »

Manhattan skyline

To some extent, the state of your house reflects the state of your mind. When your mind is in turmoil, you will be more likely to leave dishes unwashed, your bedroom strewn with dirty clothes, and unfinished paperwork scattered about. The hidden benefit of this relationship is that it also works in reverse. Clearing up environmental clutter helps to clear up mental clutter.

The reason is, whether you intend it or not, your mind creates and maintains a checklist of all the things that need to be done. This puts strain on your reticular formation (the part of your brain that makes you aware of things that are relevant), which diverts precious energy that you could utilize for more important matters. As you simplify and bring order to your surroundings, your brain will spontaneously erase those items from your mental checklist.

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An Eye For An Eye

Posted in Master Your Mind, tagged , , , , on September 23, 2011| Leave a Comment »

A Broken Eye

Has someone ever wronged you before? So much so, that all you could think about was revenge? Did you keep replaying the scenario over and over again in your head, unable to let go? I know what that’s like. To be dizzy with rage, to feel your blood seethe with hatred, to desperately beg your body for sleep when you couldn’t take it anymore.

I believe the first and best course of action is to try to talk to the person. For most of my life, nothing has done more to quickly settle matters than to open the lines of communication. Unfortunately, if the other party won’t acknowledge any wrongdoing, it makes it even harder to move on. Even worse, they may not be willing to engage in any dialogue altogether.

You might look at what can be done within the bounds of the legal system. Will taking this person to court resolve the dispute? You might also try winning people over to your side to obtain some sort of social justice. But what if it’s not possible to go to court? And what if your thirst for justice still isn’t quenched? I’ve also been there.

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