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Be a Real Friend

looking up at a palm tree

I am writing this to a friend as much as I am writing this to myself.

Anyone can criticize.  It’s easy (and sometimes gratifying) to tear someone apart, finding fault with anything that doesn’t conform to your ideals and expectations.  What’s difficult, is to turn the looking glass on yourself, to see all the shortcomings and contradictions in your words and actions.  Not that you need to fruitlessly root out every last defect that crops up, but at least be honest with yourself in the areas that matter–areas of your life that you’d like to shine in and in which fabricating self-assuaging stories about why you can’t succeed would delay your ascent.

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Behind castle walls

Words can hurt much more than sticks and stones. They can stab your heart deeper than the sharpest stick. They can pound your resolve harder than the heaviest stone. But they can also lift your spirits more than any amount of material wealth. Words have the incredible power to create or destroy belief by focusing or distorting the lenses through which you view the world.

So how do you recover from an ambush of two-faced slander? How do you deflect a barrage of insults? How do you defend against a sustained siege of condescension?

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