Đẹp Trai Không Bằng Chay Mặt.
Good-looks Don’t Trump a Calloused Face
-Vietnamese (Street) Proverb
I had dinner with a friend last night, a friend who happens to be good-looking, fun, successful, and a massive pimp (or used to be)–sorry ladies, he’s taken. And we started discussing why some of our mutual friends were successful with women–either happily married or SBC (Single By Choice)–while others were unmarried and SNBC.
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The title to this piece may seem to fly in the face of street sense and even hard-thought wisdom, but allow me to elaborate.
For now, let’s set aside the “Master Your Mind” part of the equation.
Many guys, including those whom I consider to be among my most respected and well-loved friends, readily grasp that getting the girl cannot be had without stepping up. That is to say, they understand you can’t have something for nothing. You want the princess? Go become the prince.
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Eat well. Healthy eating promotes physical and psychological well-being.
Sleep well. If you’re not getting enough sleep, start your going-to-bed routine earlier.
Work out. Becoming fat, ugly, or lazy is unacceptable. Remember, unless you were ill or injured, you’ve never actually regretted working out.
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So I had a conversation with a good friend last night. I shared that I had been going to the gym consistently for the past 2 months. He asked me how I got myself to do that. I thought about my reward system of coffee and manga, about how I wanted to remain attractive to my girlfriend, about my health and longevity. But really, I told him, I think it’s because I tell myself that if I just show up at the gym, I consider that a success. Inevitably, I get in a good workout anyway, but that’s not what I tell myself in the morning when I’m tired and hating life.
He then shared that he had done his trampoline workout 112 days in a row.
“Today was your one hundred and twelfth day?!” I asked.
“Yup, 112 days,” he said.
“How did you do that?”
“Same as you. I just tell myself all I have to do is crawl out of bed and onto the trampoline. Then just stand up. Of course, I’ll start bouncing a few times and then I’ll go for longer.”
So there you go, dear reader. Like your work–creative or otherwise–all you have to do, no matter how lousy you feel, is just show up.
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When I wrote The Vortex, I was of half a mind. The piece felt somehow incomplete–as day without night, protein without carbs, or winning without trying. Some people misunderstood, believing that I espoused a frantic, self-abnegating life. So today, I write this piece with the other half of my mind.
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