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an arrow missing its target

Making mistakes is a part of the human condition. How you choose to deal with it determines whether you will eventually become a charismatic leader or a bitter old man.

Most people associate a variety of negative emotions with making mistakes. They feel stupid. Embarrassed. That their pride has somehow been wounded. Frustrated. Angry. Sad. But is all of it really necessary?

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Now, Not Later

Planet and Star Alignment

I meant to start my self-help blog earlier, but having been wounded by the double-edged sword of perfectionism, I put it off for over a year. I wanted to wait until my life was more “together.” Until I became rich enough to live in a castle overlooking the ocean. Until I could bench press a small sedan. Until I had convinced Katy Perry to marry me. Basically, I was waiting for my life to be so perfect that I became unassailable to criticism. Fortunately, I stopped waiting.

I love to write. The joy it brings me is hard to describe. It feels similar to seeing the woman you love smile at you, or standing on the rooftop of a tall building and gazing down at the pedestrians. It makes me feel full to the core. I’ll never forget the feeling I had after writing my first page. I sat back, marveled at its genius, and breathed a sigh of relief. When I re-read it the next day, I was in shock. My jaw didn’t drop, but it sure did droop. In fact, my entire face drooped so much it felt like I was wearing a leather baseball mitt for a face. I remember the sinking feeling in my chest and the swirling feeling in my head.

It sucked!

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Everyone is Flawed…

The Sphinx

Everyone is Flawed…

…including you. But that’s ok. That’s a good thing.

As an optometrist, I have the privilege of discussing personal medical histories with my patients. One thing I’ve found is that you really can’t predict what might be wrong with people. They could be young or old, rich or poor, beautiful or unattractive. Most people have something wrong with them and the lucky ones just don’t know what they have.

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