I see it over and over again. Some well-intentioned guy comes in and hits on one of my coworkers: “Hey, I think you’re cute.” He spits out his résumé unsolicited: “I’m a lawyer.” Then he immediately goes for the close: “Can I take you out for dinner sometime?” I’ve seen the same misinformed courtship ritual play out countless times at my local watering hole and at the clubs downtown.
It never works.
Then how do you ask for a date?
First of all, you don’t ask for anything.
If you’ve approached her, she assumes you’re interested. If she doesn’t leave, assume she’s interested.
So what’s the rush? She doesn’t know you yet, nor do you her. You want to get to know her, don’t you? Spend some time talking. Tell a story. Share a secret. You don’t need to incentivize her with dinner. Just make her comfortable; make her feel like hanging out with you won’t be super awkward. And if time is short, just connect with her later over the phone.
Assuming the two of you have chemistry, the first date will be won even before you broach the question of getting together.
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